If you want Fidelity - GET A DOG!

'If you want Fidelity – GET A DOG' are the words of Christopher Ryan who is a psychologist and co-author of the New York Times best-seller, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality.

Christopher Ryan is in the country at the moment as part of ‘The Festival for Dangerous Ideas’

After listening to Christopher Ryan on 'Hack' yesterday about his thoughts on monogamy: how it’s kind of unnatural for the human species to remain in one relationship - it got me to thinking (that’s a dangerous idea in itself). It got me to thinking is this guy right? Surely, we can live happily ever after in monogamous relationships never thinking or straying or divorcing.  Is this why divorce is so high? 

My gut instinct is to say ‘NO’ we are and can be a monogamous society and find love, be in love and stay in love and loyal to the ONE person til death do us part – isn’t that the traditional vows of marriage?  I don’t know coz I changed mine, and then I chose not to get married second time round?  Why?

Hmmm…anyway, it got me to thinking about the stories I write, the characters and their relationships, the books I read, the movies I watch. Whenever there is strong characterisation you will usually find some kind of love triangle or dilemma around love and monogamy.  And don’t we just love those stories. Will she/he? Did he/she?  What if we like all three characters involved in this super love triangle – who do we bat for?  Someone’s gonna get hurt?

Here's an example of the kind of stories we seem to fall in love with.

Why do we love these stories so much if we are in fact monogamous by nature, wouldn't we hate the voyeuristic nature to these stories and wouldn't we be constantly angry with the character who chooses infidelity or does Christopher Ryan have a point?  

Have a listen to this interview with Christopher Ryan - fascinating stuff.

Have you read his book?  It’s an interesting debate – what are your thoughts?  Love to hear from you :)

More about the festival here:

Midnight rambler thinking about why my characters behave the way they do?

After Midnight...

Thought this was appropriate since I'm the Midnight rambler...
Click the link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bx2Wb-80R5U&feature=player_embedded
 or vid below:




Catch you all after midnight...







Midnight Rambler we're gonna let it all hang out...

NIRVANA CLASSIC ALBUM TURNS 20...

When I tuned into Triple J this arvo on my way to work I was totally gob smacked to find that it’s been twenty years since Nirvana’s classic Album ‘Nevermind’ was released.  Twenty years!  Even more shocked to hear listeners ring up and say they were under five or not even born.  Seriously!  Oh, wow – what you have missed.

Nirvana, a grunge band out of Seattle, literally changed how I saw the world.  This is not an exaggeration.  Kurt Cobain – my God! Just the best and of course Dave Grohl – I mean look at him now (Foo Fighters).  I’d like to say I luv them as much but I just don’t...

I have to tell you listening to Triple J and some of the Nirvana tracks they played - Wow how powerful is music? - the memories it evoked where like BAM!  The year was 1991 ‘Nevermind’ had just been released.  I lived in Israel in the middle of the Negev Desert and every Friday night Shabbat (our one night off) we, the volunteers from all parts of the world, would head down to the only Israel night club, Givalot (yes in the middle of the desert) and rock out to ‘Smells like Teen Spirit’.  It’s the one song I can always remember everyone dancing too!  And I mean everyone.  As soon as the DJ spun the record you fought for every inch on the dance floor :)

Here’s that all time brilliant song best played loud!

I saved my pennies (a months pay was equivalent to about AUD $80.00) and I had to buy food for a month but I took the bus trip into Beersheva and spent AUD $15.00 of that hard earned money and bought the cassette ‘Nevermind’ – couldn’t afford the CD :)  It did the rounds on the Moshav – everyone I knew borrowed it and we thrashed it to death.  I have since had to buy the CD.

Another favourite of mine: (pretty difficult to choose actually since I luv em all)

Nirvana was God back then and while it was grunge it was fresh music.  It was beautiful, raw and sexy and we couldn’t get enough of it.  And then the albums that followed and the MTV unplugged – what an album that is :)

Then I returned home in Feb 1994 and two months later Kurt was dead.  I won’t even go into the deep loss and grief I experienced at that time – it was a double edge sword .  I had just left a world behind that I loved and didn’t want to be here in OZ and was grieving for my life in Israel and London and Kurt’s death compounded that – the life I grieved had truly gone.  Kurt and his music was so pivotal to one of the most magickal times of my life and now he was dead.  But this post is not about grief.  This post is about the celebration of a fantastic album, a brilliant band that had the most profound impact for their short time on the music scene.

And if you aren’t bored yet – here’s another:

If you are around  this Friday night and want to check out the release of their movie (their only LIVE show recorded on film) performing at the Paramount in their hometown then check all the details here screening in cinemas around the country – do yourself a favour and check it out.  Watch the trailer here 

 As for me I will have to wait for the DVD as I will be working :(

On that note I will leave you with another song I kinda rather adore: Click here or the vid below. 

Midnight rambler lost in a time steeped with memories that I’m so happy I was actually old enough to enjoy. Maybe being older ain’t so bad after all ♥  Skin the sun, Fall asleep, Wish away…